Want to thank the people at More Than Men for having me. To start, I’d like to share a recent post from my own blog , then I’ll get to work on some original content. Enjoy!

You know, I had other things to do. Better things to do. I really, really wanted to stop being a complete asshole and actually answer my email, because I love my friends and I have been an irresponsible ass about that. I know I have, and I really wanted to get back on track and try to stop being a bastard to people I love.

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• FOGcon is a feminist-friendly literary science fiction convention . And it’s happening in my back yard at the end of March. Feminist nerds, unite!
  • The Good Men Project shared our critique of them with their readers . The commentors there when nuts. Sasha is now a hipster lady . And now you can share your awesomely stupid anti-diversity comments on a Tumblr !
  • Shuffling feet: a black man’s view on Schroedinger’s Rapist . A dismantling of a common “argument” used by the anti-diversity side, written by someone who knows.
  • Obama guaranteed near-universal contraceptive coverage . This is pretty important stuff because, well, women should get to choose when or if they are pregnant. You all know that right? Just checking.
  • The fine folks at SPARK have a great letter to the people at LEGO about what’s wrong with the problems they (and we) see with LEGO marketing. I encourage you to go sign their petition , before or after you hear Bailey Shoemaker Richards talk to NPR about the issue .
  • A young woman in Costa Rica is improving science education and outreach for her fellow high school students . She needs helps finding speakers for her second year doing so. Are you a space scientist or do you know one? Here’s your chance to promote diversity for realsies.

Here’s the final part of the great video series from Greg Laden and friends. You can see part one here and part two here . (Greg is the submitter. Featured in this chapter are C. Anderson, Stephanie Zvan , Natalie Wagner, and Serena.)

If you would like to contribute a video, blog post, or anything else, [check out how]. Editorial note: the link to the Contribute page is no longer active.

Here’s the second part of the great video series from Greg Laden and friends. You can see part one here . The final part will post tomorrow. (Like the last one, Greg organized this, the person in this part is Asha .)

Greg Laden has enlisted several people in making a series of three videos for the project. Many thanks to Greg and all his friends (credits in the final chapter). Here’s part one. Part two will be posted tomorrow , and part three on Friday . (Greg took it upon himself to organize this video, the people you see are Sheril Kirshenbaum , Desiree Schell , and Jafsica .)

If you would like to contribute a video, blog post, or anything else, check out how .

I am also a white male. That’s right, I’m swinging pale pipe.

This means I have at least two major positions of privilege over many of my compatriots in all of these various fights, and that my privilege causes my words to be amplified while others’ meritorious positions are muted. In addition, I am cisgender, where my societally-expected gender comports with the physical sex I was born with; and my heterosexuality is likewise considered “the norm” in society, and I am therefore privileged by virtue of happening to be part of a majority where the minorities are often silenced, excluded or ignored, whether purposefully or not. I often don’t realize I have these privileges – the fact slides neatly into the shadows behind my thoughts, and it’s simply forgotten. As a result, sometimes in trying to help on one front, I’m unintentionally doing damage on another.

Despite the annoying pop-over ads, I used to like The Good Men Project . It seemed to be a site for guys, mostly by guys, about not being horrible in the ways society tries to teach us to be. I mean, they had Amanda Marcotte write about MRAs , and that’s always good stuff. Then something happened. There’s still some good content there, sure, but it’s been infected by creepiness. You have articles about how stupid women don’t date Nice Guys because they’re brainwashed by rom-coms , creepy patriarchal pieces about sex trafficking where “your daughter” is equated with a drug , ridiculous straw-man replies to a woman who talks about rape culture , a decidedly mixed bag of whining and actually good stuff under the “presumption of guilt ” tag, and then the infamous piece by a founder about how girls are just different from men and should stop being such nagging bitches . (I paraphrase.) So, what happened What’s going on and why are they acting like jerks? Short answer: No one is perfect, and patriarchy messes with all of us.

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• The Canadian government says “Screw You” to married gays - Seriously dudes, the last thing equality (and your legacy) needs is an international, gay “Dred Scott” decision. Oh, you’re fixing it? You’re fucking with people’s rights. Not privileges, rights.[Looks like Canada “fixed” it , but why can something like this even happen? Oh, I know: hate + apathy.]
• There’s this Women in Secularism conference happening in May . I can’t make it, but you should go if you can.
  • Unquestioned Privilege is a great post about rudeness and microaggression over on Skepchick.
  • The skepchicks are also using delicious cookies to fight hate . And if you’re a vegan, I have some good news for you .
  • The Libertarian candidate for president wants to fight homophobia…with racism . I don’t expect much from Libertarians, but still.
  • Women ask for promotions and raises as often as men . Still don’t get them as often, or for as much. I wonder why?

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According to some dudes the whole “seduction community” is actually not, like you might at first think, a bunch of creepy not-technically-rapists - they’re really virtuous freedom fighters , saving men and women from the evils of female privilege. You see, men are horribly oppressed when it comes to sex and dating. They need sex so, so bad and stupid women just refuse to give it to them when they ask! It’s terribly shocking, I know. Luckily we have these dudes who tell us how we can [follow the lead of Slick Rick]

and finally all get our dicks wet!

Noted anti-racist writer (and decidedly white white-guy) Tim Wise has an excellent piece about the myth of “reverse racism”, and I encourage you to read the whole thing . My favorite paragraph, though, is this one:

Does making fun of anyone, ever, make you a great person? No. (And I don’t claim to be a great person. Comedy often hurts someone’s feelings.) But making fun of men, white people, able-bodied people, straight people, etc is simply not the same as someone from those groups making fun of a minority. It really isn’t.